It’s Complicated

(11 customer reviews)


  • Author Name: Michele Paul
  • Publication Date: 28/10/2019
  • Format: Paperback

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Michele is a middle-aged mother of two. Her world crumbles when she discovers that her partner is a cheat. Embarking on single life and like so many these days, she enters the world of online dating in the hope of finding her soul mate. How hard could it be?

She takes us through her online dating adventures, from site selection and safety guidelines to building her profile and matching with potential suitors. We are taken on the journey of Michele’s messaging, dates and hopes. Amongst those were some very lucky escapes…

Through her attempts at online dating, she encounters all types of men: the pen-friends who have no intentions of ever meeting her, the delusional, the dull, the workaholic, the alcoholics, the football crazy, the narcissist, the scammers and even a gold-digger! But above all, the so many that are leading a double life with the sole purpose of finding extra-marital excitement. All easily recognisable when questioned about their situation…  The answer comes back as the same tuneless leitmotif: “It’s complicated.” 

The search for true love is far more tortuous than she first anticipated, but having more time for herself leads her to get closer to a divorcee from her group of friends, someone she had known for years…

Michele Paul is a Corporate Finance Manager living in Rochester. She says, “I know that the stories in my book relate to so many women of many age groups and backgrounds and I hope that they can reassure other daters that they are not alone. Throughout my years of dating, I amused my friends with my adventures and they encouraged me to write them down. I finally listened to their advise and put pen to paper…”

11 reviews for It’s Complicated

  1. Stevie Lynne

    This was a super quick, witty and sassy read. I found it relatable and accessible.

  2. Faith Cavallari

    Online dating is always a very appealing subject I always want to read about. This was was indeed sassy and entertaining for the most part.

    Michelle seemed to be a strong woman balancing her single motherly role and trying to get a life in relationship. But I felt it was forced, the anxiousness was just too much. Still a good read

  3. Lisa Sorce

    The book was a pretty standard first-person account of what it’s like to online date. The stories shared by the author were structured like an instruction manual but came with snack-able size stories of her escapades. Overall, I found it to be pretty accurate but didn’t really learn anything new.

  4. Mystica Varathapalan

    The subject of online dating is almost unknown to me. I was curious. I wanted to know the system, how it affected both sides and what were the outcomes! I was also curious because in this book we are dealing with much older people so I felt I could empathize as well. (I couldn’t!!) but that’s another story.

    Michele is a single mother of two middle-aged, left alone by a cheating partner. Nothing extraordinary there. Her adventures in the field of online dating were numerous and hard, just showing human nature at its worst most of the time, how selfish people could be only seeing their own needs, their own worlds and insular and narrow-minded to the last. The book did not leave me with a good taste of what online dating could be, because the joys of companionship, partnership, finding a soul mate is offset by the petty mindedness you have to go through to get there.

    Most of the time reading this I felt for Michele who was trying to keep an even balance whilst in her search. Why she needed to search so much was also beyond me completely, but then that is a personal whim of mine and does not detract from Michele’s story one whit. I found it hard reading about a woman who put so much into her search, was willing to see the good side of everyone she dated, was willing to give a second chance to all – for what??

    This was a good book, matter of fact, precise and exposed warts and all of the many facets of humans seeking relationships. The fact that I couldn’t understand the whys and wherefores is not the author’s problem.

  5. Kay ODell

    Fun and sassy, this book is ALL about the author’s online adventures. This book goes into everything you need to know.

  6. Angie Walker

    A quick and witty account of the author’s adventures in online dating. Paul is brutally honest about her encounters and sheds light on the murky world of online dating for women of a certain age.

  7. Misstara

    I thoroughly enjoyed this book from start to finish. As a single dater, it had me in stitches during the moments the author describes certain dates or situations, that she has found herself in, as I could very much relate. I couldn’t put the book down and read it very quickly as a result. It perfectly describes the dating dilemmas, sagas and situations we women often find ourselves in whilst we are dating. Buy the book, pour yourself a wine and you’ll be laughing all the way through… just like I did.

  8. Mrs S A Lindup

    What a great read, a funny and true to life experience of dating! Easy to read, I just couldn’t put it down! I highly recommend this book.

  9. Rein

    Very entertaining and funny, with lessons to learn as well. A brilliant ending to an online dating adventure – ‘The cherry on top of the icing on top of the cake!!!’

  10. David

    A revelation to someone who has not tried internet dating, all you need to know.

  11. Corinne Rodrigues

    I found this an easy and quick read. Michele comes across as a forthright woman who struggles to find love online. As a woman who has struggled to meet eligible men online myself, I could identify with several of her experiences. Yes, I met several frogs before I met my Prince. While like Michele, I can look back and laugh at these experiences, they were not all pleasant when they were happening. While there certainly are genuine men out there, like Michele says there are several who are just out there to have fun on the side!

    I think while being humorous, the book serves as a cautionary guide for women (and men) entering the world of online dating.

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